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skittlebunny · Posted: Mon Aug 04, 2008 11:58 am Post subject:

It is awful that she can get away with all of that and make your life a living hell Journalista, I sincerely hope things get better soon.

I had a bit of a crappy weekend to be honest. I have been saying that moving away will be difficult because my boyfriend has to stay here, but in a way I think that will be a good thing. We've been having problems for months but neither of us know what to do about it and I can't help feeling we're just incompatible now. He just spent the whole weekend really annoying me in all small kinds of ways, I was kind of glad that he was going to be at work today. . .

an example: I was watching an Alan Rickman fan video (will post a link up somewhere). A good video, and I really liked the music, "don't you think this is turning into a bit of an unhealthy obsession"? Coming from anyone else, I may have agreed, although I'm not sure it's that bad yet, I really was just bored and searching youtube for good music. But from a person who is constantly either doing programming for games, playing games, or writing forums about games, I thought it was slightly hypocritical. His whole life revolves around computers, and it possibly seems slightly immature of me, but I get quite annoyed by hypocrites. It's one of my buttons. I'm just so glad to be on my own today!

semperaevitas · Posted: Mon Aug 04, 2008 8:01 pm Post subject:

Be true to yourself and always trust your instincts. Looks like you're doing that. I am lucky. My SO isn't interested in the whole Alan Rickman thing but he totally supports me. He encouraged me to go to NY and try to meet teh man and even helped me find the best hotel ("treat yourself" he said) and help me plan my route through the state. Breaking up is never easy no matter how 'right' it may be but I can see that you know you've made the right decision.
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skittlebunny · Posted: Mon Aug 04, 2008 8:33 pm Post subject:

No break up has occured yet. I'm going to see how long distance goes. It will be nice to get some space I think. I'm very reluctant at the moment to actually draw a line under it. I do live with him afterall and its not always bad, I'm just not sure there is a future in it.

Magenta · Posted: Mon Aug 04, 2008 9:17 pm Post subject:

Is your editor rooting for another position? Or why doesn't he care for what she is doing to his staff?

Well, alc explains the personality problems.
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journalista · Posted: Mon Aug 04, 2008 10:30 pm Post subject:

Magenta · Posted: Mon Aug 04, 2008 10:40 pm Post subject:

She admits to need the drink?
Wow, maybe there is hope.
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jacksl · Posted: Tue Aug 05, 2008 8:38 am Post subject:

Very sad. What a waste.
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Velouria · Posted: Tue Aug 05, 2008 9:46 am Post subject:

She sounds like a very troubled person. It's sad. I hope that she can pull things back together, for her child as well.

Skittle: Long distance is a huge challenge, and it will show you how you really feel about eachother. It forces you to communicate and trust eachother. How long have you been with your boyfriend? My boyfriend and I were living on different continents for 17 months and saw eachother for three months in the summer and then a week every three months. WE now live together, which is a godsend. We had problems with getting the balance right at first but things got easier.

If you are both unhappy Skittle, you really need to address the issue before you leave, otherwise you might stay together out of habit and there not ever being a good moment to end it. Remember that you are young and there could be someone better suited to you still out there. I wish you the best of luck and hope that you will be happy again.
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skittlebunny · Posted: Tue Aug 05, 2008 12:36 pm Post subject:

It is very sad indeed. Children should not be around alcoholics. She must be struggling with something, most people turn to alcohol as a way of coping with stress or if something happens that they just can't face. Sometimes, if someone is generally unhappy, it can be enough if they don't have anyone to support them. Children should always be put first however, they are far more observant than a lot of people give them credit for, and that child will know for certain what is happening. I hope she finds someone who can support her, as nasty as she is being to you Journalista, it may just be a symptom of whatever she is going through.

About my boyfriend- we've been together over 3 1/2 years. Things moved quite quickly too. Within a few months, I was virtually staying with him and his parents and before we'd been together a year, we moved into a house together because we were going to different universities in the same city. We were both very different people when we got together, and I know it sounds like a bit of a cliche, but I think we have changed too much, or perhaps we didn't really get to know each other properly. We've been having problems since January really and we have had several conversations but have come up with no solution. Staying in Liverpool isn't a possibility for me, I think the best thing to do is wait till I go away and see what that does for the relationship. I personally think it will be the final nail in the coffin, but I'm not one of those people who can just quit on something when it gets difficult, it deserves a chance. Since I'm only 21, I have time to see where it goes etc. I am not in a rush. I believe he feels the same way, although I think he is slightly less pessimistic about it. Well, he wants to be less pessimistic about it- he doesn't like to admit we have a problem, but he knows we do. We'll just have to see what happens I think. I am reluctant to make a decision until we've tried long distance for a bit.

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Skittle, being long distance may either just make it or break it. that seems to happen in relationships sometimes. If things are sort of so-so, you're not exactly getting along, then something major happens, a move, a job change, a baby (don't do that!), whatever. It either ends it, or brings the two of you together when you realise this is the person you really need to get you through.
good luck, whatever you do, and whatever happens.
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journalista · Posted: Wed Aug 06, 2008 2:01 am Post subject:

skittlebunny · Posted: Wed Aug 06, 2008 1:21 pm Post subject:

Thanks guys, your awesome! Very Happy

And you're right Journalista, I've also seen alcoholism, and it is impossible to help someone if they don't know they need help, or if they don't want it. I really hope things get better though, she may be going through a tough time etc. which would certainly excuse some roughness of manner, but making you her personal slave isn't right. It's clear she's taking her stress out on you (hopefully it stops her taking her stress out on her kid, that would be something at least.) Are you still keeping an eye open for other jobs?